Author: staceyhellman319

Before the Pandemic, I was completely opposed to doing psychotherapy online but then I was forced to choose between closing my therapy practice or switching to virtual sessions. Obviously there were real safety concerns and it wasn’t safe to be in-person. I had never been a fan of telehealth even though many of my therapist […]

While traditional treatment approaches addiction as a “disease” that needs to be managed, I’ve found that taking a strengths-based approach yields more meaningful, lasting change even for people who have been labeled “chronic relapsers.” I see addictive behaviors simply as coping strategies that end up causing harm unintentionally.  No one means to develop a dependence […]

Here’s what I’ve found to be true across the board with regards to anger: 1) Anger is a naturally occurring emotion for human beings. 2) Anger is a defensive response to feeling threatened, hurt, or vulnerable, 3) Anger can be an important step in healing trauma, injustice, or betrayal. 4) Anger is message from yourself […]

Attachment theory (created by the work of John Bowlby) is the foundation of my therapy practice and the more I learn about it, the more I want to share the information with clients. I can’t tell you how many times a client has had a profound “A-Ha!” moment when I explain some aspect of attachment […]

The idea of making peace with your inner critic isn’t a new idea and there are already whole books written on the topic. However I’ve found it to be such a transformative aspect of the therapy process that I wanted to write a blog about it.  My approach isn’t unique; it falls under the framework […]

When we experience emotional discomfort, we also experience it in our bodies, and thus we can use physical means to effectively create comfort. These physical means can be very simple but powerful by utilizing the five senses. The more senses we use in combination, the more effective the comfort routine will be.  The more often […]

Throughout my clinical experience, I’ve noticed that a common issue that many people struggle with is saying “yes” when they actually mean “no,” otherwise known as People-Pleasing. I’ve found this to be true for those who experienced severe and obvious complex trauma throughout childhood, but also those with more subtle forms of unmet emotional needs […]

When people are asked what they want most in life, it’s fairly universal that “inner peace” or “true happiness” are in the top five.  We are all familiar with these terms but what’s less familiar is how we go about achieving this goal.  In my clinical practice, I have begun using a method of therapy […]

Many people struggle with anxiety and depression but are resistant to trying medications due to common unpleasant side effects. For folks with severe, chronic and debilitating symptoms, medication may end up being necessary, but for mild to moderate symptoms, there are many non-medication strategies that can really help. I’m not a huge medication fan. I […]